My best galfriend was supposed to come and visit this past weekend
She was not able to make it.
I asked T-man if he would mind if I still took the time off and went away by muself to a local motel? He said yes, no problem...would porbably do me good to get away
I go away, in hopes of resting and relaxing before all the cleaning and preparations for the 12th of August, which is when T-man graduates (suma-cum-something) from FAUniversity and his entire family will be in our home celebrating the occassion.
He freaks out and calls me to bitch me out, on both day's that I'm gone. and has been giving me the cold shoulder ever since.
spends the whole weekend freaking because I'm gone and fights the whole time or acts like I don't exsist when I come back.
WTF????
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It sounds like a case of nerves and anxiety honestly. Even good stress like graduating effects your body the same way negative stress does. It sounds like you are his safe person to vent on. I get like that when a semester ends and I no longer have deadlines to meet. I feel like the ball is being dropped somewhere, when it really isn't. It takes me a good two weeks after a semester ends to really relax and enjoy it.
Add to the stress of graduation, his whole family is coming to town. Just reading that alone, made MY heart start racing. Dont let him be ugly and disrespectful of course, but give him a little leeway...that he is stressed out to the max, and probably feels things are out of his control.
I'm sorry your friend couldn't make it. It sounds like he didn't want you to go even though he said ok. Isn't it usually women who behave that way? They say "go ahead" but mean "you better not". Is it possible he suspects you of cheating on him?
He has abandonment issues and I agree that the Graduation is stressful, albeit a happy occassion
I lost a 15/20lbs of weight over the past few years and have gotten some of my strength back, so I have been doing a lot more lately. Not only workwise, but going out dancing. All the dancing got me toned up and fitting into my older, sexier clothes.
I think it was just a louder wake up call that I don't need him in order to have a good time....actually, I've rarely needed anyone in order to have a good time. I believe it is no ones job to entertain me, as well as it is not my job to entertain anyone. I have no qualms about going somewhere by myself, I always meet the most interesting folks that way.
Even though T-man put a damper on it, this was one of the best vacations I ever had. two nights of doing only what I wanted to do, or NOT....gave myself a manicure and pedicure, caught up on the three books I've been reading, had complete control of the remote (lol) actually I didn't watch much TV....mostly sat outside listening to the ocean as I toked away and pondered what my future holds, now that I won't have to do all of T-mans chores as well as mine, after his graduation.
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The next time you feel like complaining....
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Well, if he has abandonment issues, tell him to get off your back lest he drive you away permanently. You'd think anyone who's been married multiple years would enjoy a couple of days of alone time periodically. Anyway, good to hear it was a relaxing holiday at least.
two nights of doing only what I wanted to do, or NOT....gave myself a manicure and pedicure, caught up on the three books I've been reading, had complete control of the remote (lol) actually I didn't watch much TV....mostly sat outside listening to the ocean as I toked away and pondered what my future holds, now that I won't have to do all of T-mans chores as well as mine, after his graduation. 
That's just how I'm gonna say it too 
